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Author: Wes Packer

Mood swings and roundabouts…

Mood swings and roundabouts…

Haven’t done much, I must admit. I’ve had a tough few weeks. I allowed momentum to slow to a halt after my great week with Hugh and the NCMH bods and have struggled to get started again. I’ve done little comedy work, I’ve canceled gigs […]

Another gig canceled but great news via NCMH…

Another gig canceled but great news via NCMH…

Gig Fail…

I pulled the gig.

All-together too much shit went too wrong yesterday for me to feel like I could drive to Exter and back for a gig. I’m ok, I’m at home and I’m safe but a gig last night would have been too much, it would have hurt me and I’m tired of hurting myself. A lesson I’ve had to learn the hard way is to accept what is, not what I think should be or what I want to be – I must accept and work with what is. Yesterday, I was stood looking down at the line in the sand that I’d promised myself I would never cross again and I turned and walked away.

I did what I had to do to make sure that I stay well.

National Centre for Mental Health – Research Champion!ncmh

There is some good news in all of this…

I had a meeting with a few of the team at the National Centre for Mental Health at Cardiff University.

I have agreed to take part in some of their world-changing mental health research and to become a Research Champion, using my story to help drive public engagement and recruitment. I am beyond thrilled.

I hope I get a cape!

The Piece of Mind Podcast…

The team at NCMH also produce the Piece of Mind podcast that I’m super excited ot announce I be appearing on very soon…
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It’s early doors yet but I’ll have more info to shar soon. The Valley Fabulous podcast is taking shape, too, with hopefully some crossover into the mental health world so I’m hoping to have some exciting news on that soon.

And then there’s the shed…

You can get hear the Piece of Mind podcast on iTunes, Soundcloud, or at the following link: https://www.cardiff.ac.uk/mrc-centre-neuropsychiatric-genetics-genomics/get-involved/public-engagement/podcast-piece-of-mind

So what happened to the gig?

I was supposed to meet with Hugh to film some stuff beforehand but I got confused – I’ve been get confused and flustered a lot, lately – and I firmly believed that I’d left him waiting outside the Hadyn Ellis building for me while I was sipping coffee at home and trying to stop sweating after the shower I’d just had. So I panicked, threw everything in my bag, and dashed down to Cardiff. I pulled up outside Hadyn Ellis and heard my phone ringing. It was Hugh, he was at my house, waiting for me.

We’d agreed to meet at mine and drive down together. All I’d had to do was sit tight, finish my coffee, and wait for Hugh. Instead, I panicked, assumed the worst, blamed myself, and allowed anxiety to get the better of me again. I was in Cardiff, almost in tears, in about ten minutes; my anxiety was through the roof; I was panicked, sweating, and shaking and I was furious with myself. My demons spotted the cracks and flooded in, screaming with glee (it’s not just the light that can get through those cracks, thank you very much), and reminding me that I’m crap and I’m overweight and I’m fucked and I’ll never get a show to Edinburgh and I don’t deserve to and that everything I touch turns to shit like I’m a crap Midas.

“Ooooh! I’ve got The Shite-as Touch…”

Tick, tick, tick…

Convinced that I’m hot and and sweating and aching because I’m a fat, lazy bastard who can’t do a simple thing like meet someone in Cardiff for a meeting, I sat and waited for Hugh and I stewed and shot daggers at passers-by. I decided that I’d be better off in an air-conditioned building so I headed for the gates. I was politely informed that as I had no parking pass I’d have to park ‘somewhere else’ (wherever that is) and left to find somewhere to park in Cathays. Yes…Cathays. At three in the afternoon. In August.

Tick, tick, tick…

I almost went home.

But you didn’t?

No. I didn’t. We’ve been talking about this for a while, now. I’ve been working with BBC Wales Live, Hugh has worked hard and everyone involved has been kind, supportive, and very generous with their time – I was not going to let them down. Plus, you know what? I’m fucking sick of failing. I found a parking space in Cathays and I walked back to the Hadyn Ellis. I gave myself time in the shade outside to let the breeze cool me off and to let my arousal levels drop a bit.

Tick, tick, tick…

Screenshot from 2018-08-04 11-26-36The meeting was great, I did well, and I got to see Hayley for a bit. Hugh and I even got some scenes filmed. I contacted Ig and he sorted everything out immediately and got me off the hook.

Thanks, Ig.

I contacted the promoter and he was as good as gold and as supportive as ever. I do so love the Eminent Crew.

Sincere apologies to anyone who came along expecting to see me (it does happen now and then).

I’m super-excited about the work we’re going to be doing with NCMH and I can’t wait to tell you about all the other cool projects I’m working on but today, well, I’m not really in the mood for cheering for anything today. I spent yesterday kicking chunks out of my own arse for cancelling a gig for good people who have treated me well and supported me and for not bringing home the bacon and the demons have strengthened themselves, re-grouped, and launched another offensive. I’ve been fighting off for the last forty-eight hours.

I’m winning.

I thought I’d check my mood score, out of interest…

Hmmm. That’s a hell of a drop…

I’m gonna try to work out what’s gone on. I think I have a few ideas and Moodscope have some interesting-looking advice to offer me so I’m going to do some writing (well, reflective journaling), have a chat with my partner, and see if I can come up with some lessons learned

I’ll be in touch…

 

Wes x

Depressing Busting Course Starts Tomorrow…

Depressing Busting Course Starts Tomorrow…

I’m off to The Factory, Porth, tomorrow afternoon for a Depression Busting course. I almost had a breakdown trying to park in Porth last week so this time I’m going via Viva Arriva. Course numbers were low last week so they’re starting from scratch tomorrow. […]

Live at The Duke, Neath Comedy Festival, 2012

Live at The Duke, Neath Comedy Festival, 2012

We thought we’d lost this but I couldn’t sleep last night so I did some spring-cleaning of my external hard drive and found it in some weird folder I would never have looked in otherwise. This show was supposed to be the culmination of everything I’d done up to that point (within reason) and a kick-start to my ailing comedy career. The best laid plans, eh?

Still, it’s the full version of what I did at the Cardiff Comedy Festival so if you’d like to see almost an hour of Wes in a rock club in Neath, be my guest.

Comedy is my job now, my life and my livelihood. If you could see your way clear to giving me a like or a share, I’d ‘ppreciate it.

Enjoy!

Wes xx

p.s. Extra special thanks to Hugh Griffiths and Sam Bees for the camera work and prompting. Thanks lads xx

More Edinburgh Mementos…

More Edinburgh Mementos…

Some trips down memory lane to when I met Stanhope and Rouse at Edinburgh, where Doug nearly got beaten up but Scott Capuro saved the day, I cried at Wil Hodgson’s show, and I won a thing that I’m still bangin’ on about.

#edinburgh
#edinburghfringe
@dougstanhope
@wilhodgson
#valleyfabulous
#RIPRouse

Up all night again…

Up all night again…

Damn it, I’ve been up all night again. I shudder to think what Moodscope will make of it.   I feel like shit. I’ve not taken 30mg of Mertazipine and not slept before. The time has flown by cos I’ve been spaced out and giddy. […]

VIDEO: Guy Fawkes Night @ Swansea Grand Theatre Comedy Club

VIDEO: Guy Fawkes Night @ Swansea Grand Theatre Comedy Club

I always enjoy myself in Swansea and this was a lovely gig – compered by the always brilliant Noel James. I’ve removed all the video from YouTube and I’ll be uploading shorter, more internet-friendly clips in future cos apparently if I don’t spoon-feed people this shit then I’ll die penniless.

Lots more clips coming soon so why not subscribe to the blog to stay up-to-date with all things Wes-shaped?

Wes x

Thursday Thoughts, Meditation, and Mindfulness…

Thursday Thoughts, Meditation, and Mindfulness…

Thursday thoughts on #meditation and #mindfulness…some books and a bunch of other stuff.

#depression #recovery #valleyfabulous